Snapshots of Dementia: Time Out
(Unsplash) She nailed it. My friend, whom I can always count on to call ’em as she sees ’em, read between the lines when I wrote about my foolish assumption that I wouldn’t need an alarm on my freezer. In case you missed that post, I learned the hard way that an alarm is an excellent idea when your loved one is living with dementia. What my friend noticed, in her usual insightful way, was not so much the cost of the food we lost—although that was significant. Instead, she pointed out the time I lost: — Time spent checking all the food (some of which remained frozen, much of which did not). — Time spent throwing out the spoiled items. — Time spent mopping the floor. — Time spent scraping, wiping, and otherwise cleaning up the freezer. — Time spent shopping to replace the spoiled food. — Time spent working late to make up for the time I spent doing those all those other things. Dementia has many hidden costs—$321 billion a year in the U.S. per a 2022 analysis. But without a doubt, one of the greatest is time—for the family or whomever is caring for the person LWD. As the disease progresses, the time spent on the person LWD only grows. I feel blessed to have a profession in which I can, for the most part, set my own hours. When I first began working from home, one of my jobs required a regular schedule with half-hour or every-hour deadlines. I had to start by 8:30 a.m. at the latest and often worked straight through for many hours with only the smallest of breaks to check on Tom. Over the past year and a half, God has allowed me to make some major adaptations in that schedule, and although at times I need to write or edit a piece within a few hours, I generally have a much larger window of time. That’s huge because although Tom can still do some things for himself, my time-costs have risen in the following areas: LEAVING THE HOUSE: This aspect of our LWD life reminds me of when our kids were small and I had to allow extra time because invariably, a last-minute emergency would delay us. Our LWD last-minute emergencies include bathroom visits, retrieving forgotten items, closing doors left open, him refusing to leave until he finishes a game on his iPad, and more. INTERRUPTIONS: This time-cost has increased significantly in the last six months. I have rarely asked Tom not to interrupt me while I work (and if I did, he wouldn’t remember). So when he misplaces his reading glasses, his Chapstick, his remote control,...
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